L.A. Weekly

L.A. Weekly

This piece is part of our series on the L.A. dominatrix industry. See also:

*How a Dominatrix Does Her Taxes

*Inside the L.A. Dominatrix Industry

*The Perils of Dating a Dominatrix

Mistress Cyan first encountered BDSM at a party in the early ’80s following months of correspondence with the hostess whose PO Box she found in a personal ad in a long-defunct fetish magazine called Encore.

“It was like wow” she recalls. “There’s loads of people tied up. They’ve got this woman inverted okay and this guy’s dropping hot wax between her legs and she’s screaming and I’m thinking I gotta go… my God how am I ever gonna explain if this place gets raided?”

But she stayed. Or rather he stayed and fell down the rabbit hole. Back then Cyan was a married man the director of operations for a $3.5 billion corporation that manufactured housewares and woodenware with a company car an expense account and two young sons. Thirty years later at age 58 this stunning transgender powerhouse is the most respected professional dominatrix in Los Angeles plus the founder and executive producer of DomCon an annual convention in LA and Atlanta; a bondage model who has appeared on shows like Nip/Tuck and Las Vegas; a regular guest speaker at UCLA; a community leader commended by the city of West Hollywood for her Thanksgiving and Christmas charity slave auctions; and the owner of Sanctuary a 7000-square-foot commercial dungeon near LAX which employs forty women and boasts nine themed playrooms named after Greek goddesses.

Circulating one of Sanctuary’s weekly fetish parties a few Saturdays ago she embraces old friends and giggles with newcomers surveying the tattooscorsets feathers nudity and meaningful stares. A spaghetti-strap dress in black crushed velvet rests on her slight 124-lb frame as she monitors activity that can be sexual but can’t be sex resolving problems swiftly and calmly with a soothing but firm poise her patent leather red platforms amplifying the authority of her usual five feet ten inches.

The night before she’d gone to bed at 4 a.m. and at 5:30 a.m. her phone erupted with Hole’s “Celebrity Skin” (I’m all I wanna be / a walking study / in demonology). When she picked up she learned her sister-in-law was going into labor. After spending the entire day at the hospital Cyan wonders aloud whether she’s too tired to “play” with anyone tonight.

And yet fifteen minutes later she leads a young man in a sideways baseball cap to the stage helping him tug his sagging black pants to his ankles to reveal grey boxer briefs. The crowd hoots and whoops as Cyan rubs the boy’s buttocks and scratches them with her long fake black fingernails before breaking into a barrage of slaps. After ten minutes the boy begins humping the stage in excitement and then twerking rhythmically rubbing his backside into Cyan’s pelvis.

“Tell me does it hurt?” she likes to ask her clients.

“Oh yes Mistress” the customer will respond.

“And you’re doing that for who?”

“For you Mistress. I’m taking the pain for you Mistress.”

Cyan wields a single-tail bull whip her preferred weapon so expertly that she can approximate the feeling of both a finger grazing your shoulder and a knife cutting your skin. Feces play grosses her out and she doesn’t like being urinated on but she’s willing to urinate on other people. She once arranged a mock firing squad of dommes brandishing paintball guns to fulfill a client’s fantasy but he chickened out at the last minute. A decade ago a customer removed his jacket to reveal arms swaddled in over twenty wristwatches; he wanted Cyan and another domme to wear them while they spanked him but the women balked when they couldn’t keep a straight face.

Cyan is a dominant not a sadist meaning that rather than taking pleasure in other people’s agony she gets off on the control carefully watching her client’s body and using what most of us might consider painful sensations to create pleasure and tease him into “sub-space.”

“Sex will give somebody an orgasm for that moment and then they come down” she explains “[but] sub-space [is] more of a psychological orgasm that can stay with you for two days. You feel like you’re walking two feet off the ground… glowing.”

By July of 2010 Cyan had been running a private dungeon in Reseda for twelve years when Passive Arts the commercial dungeon that had occupied Sanctuary’s current space for decades was burned down by a disgruntled former employee who shot both owner John Lavine and his pet wolf Koda. When Lavine’s estate contacted Cyan about taking over she wanted to use the opportunity to establish a different kind of dungeon where girls are not treated “like they’re expendable.”