The
Incredible ‘Mistress Cyan’
Mistress
Cyan’s legs, body, looks and manner, make her
one of the very best Dominants in the fetish world
today. Spending time with her is like a
secret gift that you give to yourself. Once
opened - you jump with joy!
Randy: After you
became a female - totally freed from hiding your
desire, do you think being fully feminine for
the very first time made you assume the
submissive side of your D/s involvement in the
beginning? Was that your first choice
because you were a new woman, or did you really
enjoy it?
MISTRESS CYAN: No, I
don’t think that it was the feeling of My
femininity that had anything to do with it. I had
always had fantasies of Bondage and being
submissive. Maybe because I was so Dominant in
every other area of My life. When I look back, I
realize that I have ALWAYS been, what people call,
“A Control Freak”… I was always the one
stepping up and making the decisions about what My
friends and I were going to do and when. The
hardest thing I ever had to learn in business was
how to delegate responsibility.
As
far as whether I enjoyed the submissive role at
that time…. I absolutely did!!! I never would
have gotten so involved had I not. As a
submissive in My early days, I was totally into
the Lifestyle… I was collared and wore a collar
24/7. Actually, I had no choice about the collar
because My Master at the time decided that My
collar would be a custom made shiny silver chain
collar that was unable to be removed unless it
were broken… there was no clasp or buckle… the
links of the chain were closed. It was pretty
prominent and did raise questions every time I
went through a metal detector and set it off !
The looks on the faces of security when I was told
to remove it and I told them that it would not
come off ! Totally a “Kodak Moment” !!!
But really, I did enjoy
My days as a submissive and am not ashamed of
that. I was not “forced” to submit in order to
be trained as a Domina, I willingly surrendered
that power to My Dominant at that time and it was
a very fulfilling experience.
Randy: When you
switched from submissive to Dominant one day,
just for the fun of it, you say you were hooked
on Domination from that point on.
Could you explain that time and what
happened-the feelings that rose within you, and
what part of Dominating did you enjoy the most
in the beginning?
MISTRESS CYAN: Well, My
Master and I were preparing to go to a Fetish Play
Party at a Fetish Club one night when My Master
confided that He would like to switch for the
night and reverse roles. As I have said before,
this was such a surprise and I was so apprehensive
about taking the Dominant role because I had
enjoyed the submissive role so much, but I agreed
to try it.
Shortly after arriving, I
instructed My submissive for the evening to get Me
something to drink and some snacks. He promptly
returned, got on his knees and offered Me the
refreshments. I really liked that and I started to
feel a little more comfortable. I then knew that I
could “pull it off” that night because, as a
submissive, I knew how to present, and therefore,
knew how to handle My new submissive.
I then ordered him to
crawl over to the St Andrews Cross where I secured
him and started to do a flogging. Again, I really
enjoyed this. The feeling I had knowing that I was
in control of what was going to happen and when
was so cool… I was the one pushing the buttons
and guiding My submissive into subspace, which is
a wonderful place to be… and I speak from
experience! I had the authority to do
whatever I wanted and decide how far I wanted to
take My sub. I also had the power to stop at ANY
time I wanted… I had the power to frustrate My
slave or drive him into euphoric bliss. 
The experience was
something that is hard to put into words, but it
was an awakening… My fantasies of submissiveness
were replaced with the reality of Dominance.
Afterwards, I had a number of slaves in attendance
kneeling at My feet begging to serve Me, giving Me
foot and leg massages and kissing My feet. How
could anyone not enjoy that LOL !!!
Randy: Did you learn
the different aspects of being a Dominatrix from
other friends with more experience? Did
you teach yourself?
MISTRESS CYAN: I was
actually taught by some very well known people in
the Lifestyle, some of which were Pro Dommes and
some who were not. I was very lucky to have gotten
to know Mistress Jennifer Antone, a very
experienced Pro Domme who was deeply rooted in the
D/s Lifestyle as well. She was fantastic and I
will always remember Her as being a major
influence.
Many of the people I was
“hanging out” with and going to play parties
with were long time players. You need to realize
that when I came into this, there was no
Internet… It was pretty much all underground and
the Lifestyle was very much “Old Guard.”
There was a lot of protocol and everyone who was
in ‘the scene’ knew everyone else in one
capacity or another. The Janus Society, and later-
Threshold, were really the only
“organizations” that were available to what I
may call the general public and you were required
to attend an orientation before being allowed to
join and attend any functions. Many of the people
who taught Me were Officers in those groups. They
were people who traveled and conducted workshops
and seminars at the various Leather events around
the country. I am not at liberty to mention names
as many of these people are in prominent public
positions now and would be inappropriate to
“out” them. I credited a few in some recent
interviews and they requested that they remain
anonymous at this point in their lives, so I will
respect those wishes.
As far as teaching
Myself… I would say that it would be more
accurate to say that I have taken what I have been
taught and adapted it to My style, perfected it to
the point that I am confident and comfortable
using everything I have learned in any situation
or scene I am in. Everything in life, including
BDSM, is a learning experience and I am either
learning something new or ‘teaching’ Myself
something new all the time. Everyone can, and
should continue to learn and expand their
knowledge and expertise. Nobody knows it all and
if they think they do, the only one they’re
fooling is themselves.
Randy: During a
session, how intense and painful has a
submissive begged to be treated?
MISTRESS CYAN: Before I
answer this, I’d like to first say that when I
do a session with someone, it is I that decides
what, when and how things will be done, I am not a
“paid submissive” that is getting paid to do
whatever someone wants Me to do. Yes, I find out
about the submissive’s desire and fantasies as
well as their interests and limits and I take all
that into consideration when I am going to
structure a scene. I ALWAYS respect hard limits…
No means No and a submissive can be assured that
his/her hard limits will never be violated in a
scene, but I also try to include the things that
they are interested in into the scene too.
With that being said, let
Me continue with your question… The most painful
thing that a submissive has begged for in a
session was to have his cock and balls nailed to a
board and then have a glass rod inserted deeply
into the urethra. He then wanted Me to beat his
cock with a 
hammer
to shatter the glass rod in his urethra. He had
said that he’d previously inserted rose bush
stems with thorns in the urethra and pulled it out
so the thorns would tear up the tissue and had
also inserted “stinging nettle” a plant that
secretes a very stingy sensation for a
considerable amount of time when touched. Needles
to say, I did not do it even though he begged and
begged Me to do it. He even offered Me a great
deal of money if I would, but I would not. I
believe that a Dominant has not only the authority
to administer pain and discipline, but has the
responsibility of maintaining the submissive’s
safety as well. One must accept that
responsibility if they want the authority… they
come hand-in-hand with each other.
Now, how intense have I
been when required… Again, I am never
“required” to do anything except take on the
responsibility of one’s safety and that goes
with the territory as I previously stated. I do,
however, get very intense when I want to and when
I am playing with heavy players. I really
enjoy heavy flogging and single-tail sessions,
intense Violet Wand play and heavy corporal. I
have one person I play with on a regular basis who
I have known for about 12 years and we get very
intense… I start off with an Over-The-Knee
spanking, which is one thing I am pretty well
known for, and is followed up with a leather
slapper, then a rubber slapper, an oak paddle, a
mahogany paddle, a razor strap and finally 200
cane strokes. THAT is pretty intense!
The scene usually lasts for about two hours and he
can go that far because of the slow warm up and
progression. Yes, he is a heavy, masochistic
bottom, but could never go that far if someone
just started beating his ass. I know how to get
REALLY intense in a very safe and non-threatening
manner.
Randy: How would you
handle a first time cross-dresser? Let’s
say that person wishes to be cross-dressed,
humiliated, turned into your slut and be treated
like one.
MISTRESS CYAN: No, That is
actually a pretty common scene with a lot of
heterosexual males. They don’t feel that they
can go there with their wives of girlfriends for
fear of being labeled as gay, or they fear that
the wife or girlfriend will lose respect for them
or even worse, laugh at them and leave them. They
are afraid that the women in their lives will not
understand and that’s a shame. It’s so sad
that in our culture today, people who are in love
with each other cannot be honest with each other
for fear of rejection. But, in My Dungeon, it is
another world, it is not the vanilla world were
people are so judgmental. Everyone can feel
accepted rather than tolerated. That enables Me to
touch the souls of many I play with. 
I understand their
fantasies and their desires, and I know how to
make them a reality on My terms, which is also
important to the submissive. The session is so
much more fulfilling when the submissive is
totally not in control and doesn’t know what is
going to happen next rather than “topping from
the bottom” and telling the Domme what they want
to have done to them. When a novice comes to
Me with that fantasy, I will start doing the
session with them as a male and “force
feminize” them by requiring them to get into
some very feminine attire which can range from
some simple lingerie to a full French Maids
outfit. I threaten them with a whip so they comply
and then usually put them in some type of
restraints so they feel vulnerable… I strip them
of the masculine energy and male ego and replace
it with that soft feminine side that they usually
respond to in a very positive way.
I will tell them how sexy
they look as a sissy and how much of a slut they
are going to become under My training. Compliance
brings a level of praise while defiance results in
ridicule and punishment. Soon, they realize being
a sissy for Me is a good thing and relates it to
good feelings. I tell them how much they are
going to love submitting and are on their way to
becoming a little slut that craves taking My
strapon in their mouth and their pussy ass.
It is never a surprise
that they come see Me on a regular basis… I
combine both the physical and emotional needs into
My sessions. I take what they have been
taught as being wrong, or considered taboo, as
being normal and acceptable in My world.
Randy: Why do you
think so many men are drawn to a Dominatrix and
other women - who wear spiked heels? Why
do many men want to worship high heels, spiked
heeled boots and feet? Do you think it’s
the symbolism and sexiness of them, or is it
another way for them to be humiliated?
MISTRESS CYAN: Actually, I
think it’s all of the above, both singularly and
collectively. High heels are sexy, they give the
foot and the leg a nice shape and enhance the
attractiveness of the female… the derriere has
much more shape and the walk is much more
feminine. Many get excited just by the sound of
“heels clicking on the floor” as women walk.
As
far as why some men are attracted to women’s
feet, that is probably as diverse as there are
people. It could be any reason, just as some men
prefer blondes while others prefer brunettes. Some
guys can get turned on looking at a woman’s sexy
ass, while another is attracted to the legs, and
then there are those that look at the feet. I
don’t really feel that there is any particular
reason why a guy has a foot fetish.
But, there are, without a
doubt, guys that are into humiliation and enjoy
foot worship as a means of reinforcing their
position as a lowly male - who is there to serve
the Female and helps establish the Female as the
Dominant, as the submissive is on all fours
kissing and worshipping Her feet. There is a
symbolism also, to an extent, because most of
humanity, today and all through history, relate
the act of kneeling before someone or kissing
their boot as an act of submission and surrender.
The submissive’s acceptance of that submission-
It reinforces that submission.
And speaking of symbolism,
it should also be noted that in today’s world
where women are assuming the work roles of men,
running companies as CEO’s in Corporate America,
and more and more are wearing “male-oriented
attire” such as pants and shirts, it is the high
heel that still remains exclusively feminine. And
most men will always be attracted to that which is
exclusively associated with femininity in one way
or another.
Randy: Could you
explain to us a favorite session of yours, how
you like the submissive to act and what you
personally like to do the most to a slave or
submissive. You know, ‘These are a few
of my favorite things?’
MISTRESS CYAN: I would
have to say that My favorite sessions are those in
which the slave or submissive really reacts to
what I am doing. It doesn’t always have to be
verbal, it can be through body language. My
buttons are pushed through the reactions I get
from the slave or the submissive. It’s not so
much what I am doing, although I do love bondage,
flogging and singletail, heavy corporal, tickling,
foot worship, forced feminization, Violet Wand
play and slut training. It’s what I get
back that’s important to Me. Someone who just
stands, sits or lays there and shows no response
is like an emotional vampire… all they do is
take and take and they give nothing back. I WANT
something back from them. I am not there to just
give. I won’t play with those type of
people.
I have one slave who goes
really deep into subspace and reacts to every swat
of the paddle and every lash of the whip. It is so
erotic to play with someone like that. I will be
sensually sadistic by alternating the flogging
with the light touches and strokes of My long red
fingernails down her
back. She almost melts and the goose bumps
just jump out as she moans in ecstasy - then I
resume the flogging and single-tail, and again
light sensual touches with an occasional rub on
the back and ass with a rabbit fur. It is so sexy
and we can play for hours at a time, which is
important to Me because I NEVER put a time limit
on a session.
Randy: I would love
to know the extent of the feelings you yourself
receive while immersed in an excellent session.
Could you go into those emotions and feelings as
far as you’d like?
MISTRESS CYAN: Wow,
that’s a very interesting question and I’d
have to say that it’s a number of things. I tend
to really focus on what I am doing because it’s
not like just going through the motions with Me…
My sessions are not like following a manual and
going from step 1 to step 2 and so on. Each
session is different in one way or another, as is
each slave or submissive… each is unique in
their own way and the sessions tend to take a life
of their own.
I “bond” with the
person I am playing with on, what one might call,
a spiritual level of sorts. I tune into their
feelings and having experienced the sub-space
Myself in the past, I can identify where they are
and what they are experiencing. For Me, this
bonding is very intense and if the submissive is
giving back to Me with their emotions and
feelings, and are “letting loose” then I am on
My way to getting a mental and emotional
“orgasm”, so to speak, which is so much more
intense than just a physical one. That might not
make sense to a lot of people, but anyone can have
a physical orgasm, that’s what I have My
vibrator for, but the mental and emotional ones
aren’t brought about by sexual stimulation
alone. A good scene is like a drug to me, it
gives Me a natural, euphoric high, it stimulates
My senses and challenges My abilities. It’s what
drives me to be the Domina I am.
Go see her website now.
Drop her an email at www.MistressCyan.com
There is no one else like
her. Randy Burns.
(read the review done by
Mistress Katja Minx here)
